I'm sure you've all seen this image before.
...Usually when referencing what you see of others and what's going on beyond what you can see.
But have you ever stopped and fully considered how this applies to YOU:
The thing you want to do/achieve/have and everything you tell yourself about it underneath the surface?
For example, imagine you want to release 25lbs.
What do you tell yourself about releasing 25lbs?
...it's so hard.
...it's so restrictive.
...no matter what I do can't lose weight and keep it off.
...I hate working out.
...I hate eating veggies.
...eating healthy is no fun.
...I don't have the time for all of that.
...
Not to mention all the things you've told told yourself about 'healthy people' or 'skinny people' or 'not skinny' people.
All of these thoughts you have, they may be real, and they may not.
I'm sure you have proof of how real they are from previous experiences.
...and I'm sure if you tried you'd find proof the opposite too...
But I want you to consider for a moment that these thoughts exist to support your identity.
...the one you've created and are carrying about yourself...
I've said it before, and I'll say it again:
Your identity is how you see yourself, the world, and your place in it.
Your identity drives how you interpret and filter everything.
Therefor, your brain will give you information that aligns with your identity. It will give you thoughts that align with your identity.
..and we know that thoughts create emotion...
So those feelings: they align with your identity.
So go back and read all those thoughts I listed above:
What is the identity of the person who has those thoughts?
Do you think those thoughts are aligned with the outcomes she's trying to create?
Do you think the person she wants to be has the same identity?
I'm certain it's pretty obvious to you: No. Absolutely not.
You can never out perform your identity.
If you want to create a change - you must stop telling yourself the same stories that are keeping you where you are.
You must create from Point B identity.
So the person who wants to release 25lbs -
What identity does the person who's already done that have?
I am healthy.
This is who I am and what I do.
...they probably aren't obsessing about working out - they just do it.
A person who wants more peace and calm in their life:
What is the identity of the person who has peace and calm?
I am at peace regardless of my surroundings.
I am full of inner peace.
Do you see how this impacts the behaviors?
So often we try to make change from the top of the iceberg, but what's underneath is far greater and more impactful.
EVERYTHING IS STORY.
Stories told over and over create identities.
Identities in return create filters to validate stories.
What identity would be most useful for you in regards to your goals?
What stories would support you?
Hint: if you're feeling "bad" (sad, angry, resentful, frustrated, woe is me) - you're telling yourself an unsupportive story.
Everything is story.
Most of us are unaware of the stories we're telling.
Are you creating a story that supports where you want to go?
If you don't have what you say you want, the answer is: No.
Not because there's something wrong with you, or because you're not good enough, but because we all have blindspots:
You don't know what you don't know.
..and again: brain filters.
If you're willing to examine what's underneath, I'm here to help.
You can reach out to me and let me know what's going on in your life and how I can help. Or, if you're really ready for change, jump on my calendar and book your
XOXO
Lindsey
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