This month I'm sharing some of my 2020 Goals. Check out last week's post if you, like 50% of Americans, have Health Related Goals for the coming year.
I'm pretty certain I'm not alone in this. In fact, a few weeks ago I did a LIVE video in my Facebook Group about this very topic. Although 'connecting' can mean many different things to many different people, but in general over 70% of adults feel disconnected.
I currently have a love/hate relationship with social media. The 'love' part comes from being able to see my family and friends and their families. I live in California. Majority of my family and life-long friends are in Illinois. By far the hardest part of moving across the country was not seeing them every day. (And I am not exaggerating when I say every day.)
I love social media because I still get to see them every day! I get to click that little Heart emoji, or Thumbs Up, and even comment! We're totally still connected!
Or are we?
That's where the hate part comes in to play. I'm 'Liking' and commenting away feeling connected, feeling like I'm still a part of their lives, except we haven't actually spoken in 5 years. Sometimes more. We haven't even texted, let alone spoken. So, that 'connected' feeling is really just an illusion. It's superficial. And that doesn't feel so good. That feels pretty darn crummy.
As I said, connecting more is a 2020 resolution for me. To my friends and family back home: Don't be surprised if you get a text or email or private message on Facebook saying, "Hey, I've been thinking about you"......because I have. It's genuine. Some of you may have already received one. I literally have a list.
Now, if you're like me, you may also be feeling disconnected and wanting to reach out to people but worry about what they'll think. Ex: It's been so long; they'll think this is weird. Or: We haven't spoken in forever and they'll think I'm up to something. Or: What if they don't want to talk to me?
That's fair. I get it. I have those same feelings. And I send the text anyway.
Here's the thing: It's Not Up To You. It's up to them to decide how they respond.
In my experience: 99% of the time the response is, "Oh my gosh! I'm so happy you reached out." It really is as simple as: Hey, I've been thinking about you. How are you?
As I said, I don't think I'm alone on this feeling disconnected and wanting more connection in my life. If you're feeling this way too: Let's Connect!
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